Last week Chelsea at The New Wifestyle posted a thought-provoking question to her Facebook page:
“What do you think people want to get out of their marriage, in your opinion/experience?”
I didn’t comment on her post because I didn’t have a good answer. I love my marriage and I super love my husband, but I had no idea what I wanted to get out of my marriage (or why I got married verses dating forever).
Then something happened to me this weekend and I realized something about my marriage and about my husband.
Kyle is my guard dog. When someone hurts me his teeth come out and he’s ready to attack. My husband is a low key, easy going, friendly guy… but when he senses that I’ve been offended or hurt he is in my corner, ready to fight for me. (Honestly, I cry when I think about his loyalty to me.)
He knows that I can handle my own troubles and he’s very good at butting out, but when I’m so crippled by my emotions that I can’t function he stands up and tries to protect my heart and fix the problem.
I got married to become a member of my favorite team. Kyle isn’t super expressive but when he goes to bat for me I feel more loved than anything. He is my German Shepard. He is my body guard. He is the coach in the corner, wiping the sweat off my brow and giving me a pep talk. I love that guy so much.
We’ve been married for two years and I just made this discovery. I love learning new things about myself and about Kyle and about our relationship. Have you learned anything new about your relationships within the last few month?
When I was down in the dumps this weekend I prayed for a silver lining. I’m very sure that God made this protective trait obvious to give me my silver lining. All is good now; I know it takes lows to reveal highs. The weekend ended up being pretty great!