Today I was going to post about how I’ve fallen into a mid-Fall slump. Don’t get me wrong- I love this time of year- but the recent election and my persistent acid reflux issues and the trivial pressures of the holiday have me somewhat deflated. I just feel so tired and drained by the end of the workday, and chores have gone by the wayside. I don’t know- I just feel very bleh right now.

Originally I was going to make a whole post out of it, but then I came up with a different idea. Instead of describing my mood, I’m going to share with you the ways I try to pull myself out of these ruts. Maybe these can help you, too!

Go get some coffee.
Right now my closest Starbucks is 35 minutes away, but sometimes I just need the road trip + coffee splurge to lift my mood. Sometimes just a quick trip to McDonald’s for an iced caramel coffee does the trick.

Wander around your favorite store(s).
After getting a warm holiday latte it never hurts to wander around Target or HomeGoods or World Market or Hobby Lobby.

Hang out at the library.
There are times I feel worse when I leave Target or Barnes & Noble with a $400 dent in my checkbook (let’s be real- we’ve all gone in to browse and walked out with enough to furnish a new apartment) so instead of shopping I go to the library.


Clean the house.
Is that weird? Sometimes organizing and checking things off my to-do list is the only thing that makes me feel better. I love clean sheets and organized closets and an empty sink. When I get into ‘crazy clean mode’ K knows to leave the house and let me go nuts with some loud music and wine.

Get out of town & spend some time with your girls.
A few of my very best friends live +2 hours away so it’s easy for me to pack a bag and kiss K goodbye for the night. Whether we go out for drinks and dancing or hanging out on their couch with a movie, it’s the mini-getaway I need to rejuvenate my spirit.

Be alone.
I love my friends and I adore K, but I recharge in complete solitude. Reading a book, binge-ing on Netflix, or taking a nap is the only way to fix my super low moods.

Bath + Glass of Wine + Candles
I don’t think I need to explain this one.


Listen to the Right Music For My Mood
Sometimes I need some heavy rock that keeps tempo with my boiling blood. Sometimes I need Disney tunes to belt out at the top of my lungs. Sometimes I want Frank Sinatra crooning at me through the speakers. It’s all a matter of picking the right playlist.

Buy Myself Something New
Nothing big or fancy: a snarky coffee mug, a new book, a half-priced purse from Marshalls. Something that I really want that makes me feel prettier or smarter or happier in that moment.

Go On A Walk or a Hike- Or Take the Dogs to the Dog Park
Seeing my dogs enjoying themselves in nature or playing chase with another large group of dogs always makes me smile. There’s something about watching another creature enjoy itself that makes me warm inside.


I’ll snap out of my funk soon enough, but combining a few of these things always helps. This weekend I’m seeing my best friends and spending time at the wilderness rehab center, so I should definitely be in a happier mood for Turkey Day!

Tell me what you do to get happy!

My thoughts & love are with all my southeastern US blogger-friends right now. Stay safe, guys ❀︎
I’m praying they get the fires under control soon..

Also, Happy Birthday to my beautiful mother-in-law!


44 thoughts on “How to Get Happy

  1. Mid-fall slump is the perfect description for this time of year! The pretty colours are gone and it’s so grey and miserable (it’s been raining for DAYS here!).
    Buying things is definitely one method I use to cheer myself up. It can quickly get expensive though. A nice cup of tea usually does me good, and of course getting lost in a book πŸ™‚


    1. This is my favorite time of year, but it tends to get a little crazier at work and the stress of the holidays comes to a head so I think it’s pretty easy to fall into that slump… I like having options to snap myself out of it because sometimes I just don’t want to read and perusing Target is the only thing to cure my mood.


  2. Definitely walking Hawkeye, she’s always just so excited about life when we’re out for a walk, it’s hard not to be happy with her. And yes to cleaning too, a perfectly clean house makes me feel fantastic.


    1. Sometimes walking the dogs makes me more frustrated, haha, but when I only take one (like a hike with Ly or a dog park with Enzo) I’m instantly filled with happiness! K and I were arguing this weekend and I just started doing dishes mid-argument to change my mood! Haha!


  3. I’ve been in the same kind of funk… I feel ya.
    & girl… you are speaking to me here with the Beauty & the Beast shout out πŸ˜‰
    There is just something soothing to me going out for coffee.
    I can go look at books & be so content. I’m planning on going to the library next week while I’m off work & Ricky’s working. Just a good place to decompress.
    Hope the weekend & the holidays cheers you up. If not, we need to make a road trip & meet up – I’ll bring Harvey Dent & he’ll 100% cheer you up… unless he eats your shoes. Different story πŸ˜‰


    1. Ooooooh, enjoy your week off! I have three books out right now that I need to spend some time with πŸ™‚
      We most DEFINITELY need to road trip to a halfway point! That’d be so fun! I’m totally down- even if Harvey Dent eats my shoes πŸ˜‰


  4. Yes to all of these things!!! Retail therapy is my absolute favorite thing to do when I am trying to get out of a slump, unmad at someone, happy, whatever. It just works! Should be covered by insurance, you know??? And sometimes all my morning needs is a Starbucks or Dunkin run. No shame.

    The fires popping up everywhere down here are scary! We had a forest fire in the city I live in that has been out of control for the last two days. Stay away from my house please!!!


    1. My Target, HomeGoods, and Starbucks is 35 minutes north. (Hobby Lobby is an HOUR away!) When I’m in the (bad) mood to wander around and get some coffee I tend to go all out and hit up all the stores at once since I’ve already made the drive.

      That’s SO SCARY! I hope they get them under control 😦


  5. Yes to all of these. I had a cleaning rampage this morning and now that you mention it, I think I did it because I just needed to cheer up and it somehow helps.


    1. Sometimes I just can’t relax unless I know the laundry is going and the sink is empty! It makes it easier to read a book or re-mess up the house with new Target goodies πŸ˜‰


  6. SO GOOD. There were SO MANY DISHES piled up in our kitchen earlier this week, and while I usually just stew about how I’m the one who does 99% of the dishes, instead, I spent LOTS of time two days in a row doing dishes and once I was done I breathed a huge sigh of relief. And then I did laundry and swept. It was great. Also coffee is such a huge pick me up, as is some retail therapy (but like you said, going and spending waaay too much in Target or something can add to my anxiety and not be good!).

    Your MIL and my momma share a birthday! Happy birthday to her! πŸ™‚


    1. I honestly think my mood is partially because I haven’t spent ANY time on our house and it needs a good sweep/mop/deep clean and the laundry has been neglected. UGH. Hopefully I can tackle stuff this week and over the long weekend!

      AWWW!! I hope your mom had a fabulous birthday!! Happy belated Birthday to her!!


  7. Yes to all of these. Every single one of them helps me feel so much happier. I never knew that I was the kind of person who felt better after cleaning but it’s so calming and meditative, and you can just put on music or a movie and forget the world. And in the last week or two I finally started to understand how awesome it is to just wander around Target with a cup of coffee.

    It’s been a hard week with the election results. Thanks for posting this, we all need to bring a little more happiness into the world.


      1. And ME TOO on the feminist gifts! (Where did you shop?? Give me some suggestions!) I’m posting a Christmas wishlist soon and there are quite a few feministy items!!


    1. I feel like if I lived in Hawaii I’d add “hang out on the beach” to this list πŸ˜‰ Is Target on the island much different from the ones around here??

      Ugh. Election week totally drained me. And people in my family are actually pleased with the results, so staying happy through family holiday events is my next challenge. *sigh*


  8. My mom LOVES cleaning the house when she is sad or stressed. I really wish I got that from her! I love going to the library or just curling up with a good book! I can’t imagine being 35 minutes away from Starbucks (though I don’t go too much because it’s pretty expensive). There’s a local coffee shop within walking distance to me that I love going to when I need a pick me up.


    1. I wish I turned to reading more often. Usually I can’t get lost in a book if I know the house is a wreck. I take advantage of Starbucks when I can since it’s so far away. I do have a local coffee shop down the street from where I work so things aren’t so bad, but sometimes you just want a PGTL or Caramel Brulee, haha!


  9. Yes to all of these, except the cleaning. A clean house makes me feel good but I hate cleaning. But I have plenty of friends who break out the bleach when they get stressed or have the blahs. I wish they would come over to my house to clean. πŸ™‚ When I get the blahs, which is more often than I like, snuggling and playing with my cat, Max, always makes me feel better. Definitely reading, shopping, eating and showering (TMI on the last one, sorry) too. Hopefully, the blahs say adios to you soon!


    1. Ah, yes to showering/a bath! Sometimes letting the hot water pour over you is SO relaxing and recharging! When I’m in a mood I usually clean until I come across a project- like a mess closet or kitchen cabinet. Then that distracts me and I forget all about the daily chores. Haha.
      Thank you! ❀


  10. I love this post! I’m all for the little things we can do to get us out of the badittude funk. I love a good bath with candles and some magazines to catch up on, and honestly, just being able to sleep in for 15 extra minutes gives me a great pick me up haha!


    1. “Badittude” = an amazing term.
      I’m thinking I might treat myself to a book in the bath tonight just to gear up for the 3-day work week, ahaha!
      Never underestimate the extra 15 minutes of sleep!


  11. I love that you turned your slump into something productive! This time of year is usually pretty hard because the leaves are gone and you never know what the weather is going to be like at any moment. One of my favourite things to do when I’m in a funk is to have some alone time too. Shopping, reading, bath time, those are some of my favourite things to do.


    1. Doesn’t happen very often. Ha.
      Alone time is so, so necessary to my good moods. K likes to recharge when I’m around but he knows that I do better when I get some time to myself. Sometimes he even has to suggest I go scrapbook or read in another room, just because he can tell my mood is starting to go down hill. Haha.


  12. I used to love going to the library by myself–wandering Hobby Lobby is pretty fun, too! I no longer go on adventures by myself since I don’t have a car…even if I did, I hate driving in Malaysia. Adventures out somewhere are a happy thing for me, but when that’s not practical cleaning/organizing, and making pretty things are a good substitute!


    1. Making pretty things is such a fun, rewarding experience! I really love adventuring on my own- I’d be sad to lose that option. I’m glad you’ve found other ways to cheer yourself up and treat yourself!


  13. First, great way to spin your original post idea about your slump into something positive. Second, great list! So many of these things I use to rejuvenate myself too.


  14. Oh lady! I am RIGHT THERE WITH YOU! Oh my have I been in a funk. I don’t wake up with the scary pit in my stomach most days anymore … but that doesn’t mean that I feel better or good about where we are as a country. So sad. 😦 BUT I like what you are doing here with your post, and I agree. These are great ones. I like to take a lap around Target with KC, personally. hehe We’ve been watching the extended Hobbit movies, which tends to suck you in and make you forget some of the icky things. Organizing, cleaning, etc. YES YES YES! So true. Um, 35 min to nearest Starbucks. What? Why? I would be sad… XO – Alexandra

    Simply Alexandra: My Favorite Things


    1. Rumor has it we’re getting a Starbucks here in town. I’m not going to hold my breathe, though. That was a rumor a few years ago and it never happened so we’ll see….

      Taking K to Target is an interesting experience. He’s not much of a shopper so I have to be in the right mood to put up with his shenanigans, haha!


  15. i know i’m super behind on blog reading, but i love this post! i am with you, going to the library or even cleaning the house makes me feel so good. i love walking around target or home goods, but like you said, i feel bad after wasting money sometimes! especially because sometimes my moods are based on what i WANT to do (travel or buy big things like a new house) and shopping for useless stuff doesn’t help me get any closer. but cleaning/organising my house (well, currently living in a basement but you get me) makes me feel productive and like, in control of my life. for a little while anyway haha. and yes, being alone always helps me recharge, whether i’m only in a little funk or near empty. love it. i haven’t been alone in over a month, not even in another room because of the aforementioned basement living, and i am starting to feel it.


  16. I’m glad this resonated with you πŸ™‚ And I never mind late comments, haha!

    I think it’s so calming to be alone and put things in order- whether it’s cleaning the kitchen or organizing a closet or tossing out old papers and knick-knacks πŸ™‚


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