I am a strong independent female, but I don’t…

…mow the yard, whack the weeds, or edge the driveway.
I’ll admit that 95% of the housework falls on me. As such, I don’t know how to mow and I never want to learn. That way, I never get stuck with that chore, too. πŸ˜‰

…change my oil.
Let me just say that I know how to change my oil, but my dad is a truck driver, my husband is a car guy, and we have two Valvoline places in town. I’d sooner pay someone.

…grill.
Nope- grill nights are mama’s night off from cookin’!

…drink beer.
Only because I don’t like beer. If nothing’s available I’ll down a Bud Light.

…mess with wiring or tech stuff.
I can absolutely hook up a DVD player or plug in a computer, but I typically just ask K to tackle it when he’s home.

…hunt.
Lots of “country girls” in my neck of the woods hunt. I do not. I haven’t a problem with the cold/forest and I’m a pretty good shot, but I don’t have any desire to snuff out a life. When my dad started taking my brother hunting he offered to bring me and I declined. Fortunately, neither one of them really hunts anymore.

…hang pictures or artwork or shelves on the wall.
I live with a visual perfectionist and I’m not willing to take the flak if I fail to hang a picture perfectly straight. I’ll hang stuff in my own office, but not around the house. I do direct and approve of all the stuff that goes up on the walls, though. I’m awesome at over-seeing.

…use power tools.
Technically I play around with drills and sanders when I’m waiting around the warehouse, but I don’t actually do any projects with them. I’ve never need to, so I don’t.

…have control of the TV remote.
If we’re watching TV together, K usually picks what we’re watching. If I’m not on board, I pick up a book or go watch one of my shows on hulu in a different room. Now that we have two cable boxes in the house, I can technically just go watch something else (or he can).

*This is all in fun. I don’t think strong independent fearless females need to do any of these things to keep their card. Or you can do all these things. Whatever floats your boat. πŸ˜‰

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36 thoughts on “I am a strong independent female, but I don’t…

  1. I can’t even drive so I don’t need to know how to change oil πŸ˜‰
    If we ever have a lawn to mow, Jan can do it! I do almost everything else (mostly because he works longer hours and has a commute while I’m right here all the time so it makes more sense for me to do the housework). Things will change when we have kids though. They need to actually see daddy doing a fair share so they can grow up thinking men doing housework is normal.

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    1. Ha! No need to waste brain space on oil changing procedures!
      When we have kids they will definitely see mom and dad tackle chores equally. I’m the fire starter and bug killer, too, so I do take on some traditionally masculine tasks. But yes, I totally agree that kids need to see the work spread out equally and unbias-ly.

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    1. Hahahaha- I thought about doing a sister-post about all the traditional male or tough things I do. I am the residential spider killer in our house. My husband is terrified. Ha.

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  2. I don’t mow, either, and for the same reasons you mentioned! I feel like if I do the majority of inside work… plus, I’m terrified of the outdoor tools for some reason. I wish I didn’t love beer. I’d be about 50 pounds lighter. πŸ™‚

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    1. I wish I did like beer! It’s so trendy to like beer and try new flavors! I miss out on all that *waaaah*
      My dad enjoyed mowing the lawn and never let us do it so I was never taught. (I mean, I’m sure I could figure it out. Ha.) When K and I moved in together I told him I don’t know how to mow and I choose not to iron. So that’s all on him. Ha.

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  3. I cut our grass. It is the best workout ever with our steep hills. I am with you on paying someone to change the oil! No thanks! I worked at Kirkland’s when I was in high school and all through college, I can hang pictures on the wall with the best of them thanks to that job! I also find myself being the one who has to build all the furniture/shelves and stuff that we buy. I am afraid of using drills, power tools and grills though. I need to leave something up to Chris to feel manly, right? Although, he makes me kill and dispose of all the bugs.

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    1. Sometimes I feel frustrated that I don’t know HOW to cut the grass, but honestly it’s better this way. Ha.
      I put together at least 50% of the shelves in the house, but I’m not willing to deal with Mr. Perfect when it comes to hanging things. Lol
      I, too, am the main bug and spider killer. *sigh* These men…… lol

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  4. LOL, I am the same way with many of these. Sometimes I feel like J & I have shaken up the typical gender roles somewhat, like J does most of the cleaning and grocery shopping, but he definitely also handles the typical guy things to do with the yard and car while I cook and do laundry and do more child care. I also admit I do love the little chivalrous gestures like having the door opened for me.

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    1. I do a LARGE chunk of the domestic jobs. Ha. Laundry (which I love), cleaning (which I typically enjoy), and most of the cooking. If I need help or want company in the kitchen K will come in and do the little tasks I assign him, which is nice πŸ™‚ I pull weeds and (try to) garden, but most lawn care is on him. Same with cars πŸ™‚ I can, but I don’t.

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  5. 100% with you on these! Especially all things car-related. My dad made sure I could change a tire and do all sorts of things to my car, and while I love having that knowledge, I’ll gladly pay for someone else to do it. Something about working on cars skeeves me out.

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    1. I figure with all these experts and car guys around me I don’t need to mess with it. Again, I CAN do it but it’s not my thing so someone else can tackle it. Ha. Totally with ya.

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    1. Hahahaha- I’m just not a big TV watcher so I let him mess with it while I read or blog. If there’s something I REALLY want to watch he sits through it or we just split up for the evening and watch stuff separately. Lol

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  6. This made me laugh! I specifically don’t live somewhere where I have a yard to take care of because I do not want to be responsible for yard work while Nick is gone. I try to make life as simple as possible for me. I have begrudgingly taken on some of these things, like hanging up things on the walls and putting things together, because if I don’t, it won’t get done cause Nick’s just not around. BUT when Nick was out to sea and I had to set up my internet, I called my friend’s husband to come over! I felt like such an idiot but you’re right – you don’t have to do it all to be an independent woman!

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    1. Girl, we just CAN’T do it all (without going nuts)! Sometimes I happily hand off to others πŸ˜‰ Could I survive and do things all alone? Yes. Do I need to? Nope πŸ™‚

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  7. hahaha yes. I agree about most of this for sure. My dad is a big hunter/fisher, etc. and he taught us to shoot. Which was fine, but never my thing. He did take us along to empty traps and fish and stuff and I didn’t enjoy it at all. I wasn’t given a lot of option at a young age. 😦 I really don’t like the idea of hunting at all. Unless you’re legitimately going to eat it. Which I guess is fine… but still not something I want to do. bleh. We’ve got these horrid wasps sneaking in our brick all fall, and it makes me so anxious. They are pretty hard to catch sometimes… but it also makes me sad to kill them (they don’t really sting at all).. but if you let them out they just get back in. I somehow still feel bad for them even though I know they need to die… 😦 I try to kill them as swiftly as I can. XO – Alexandra

    Simply Alexandra: My Favorite Things

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    1. I learned to shoot really young and I enjoy target shooting, but I never want to kill anything. I used to go fishing all the time, too, but in the last few years I’ve changed my mind on that. I don’t mind when hunters and fisherwo/men do it for food, but I am 100% against trophy hunting. Also, you have to be responsible. If you hit it, you track and find it.
      I end up releasing A LOT of bugs into the outside. Wasps are a different story… they’re pretty mean. I save all bees, though πŸ™‚

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    1. I used to give my dad all kinds of grief over hunting. While I do eat meat and I actually really enjoy venison, I would soon give up all meat than kill something. I actually think my dad has changed his tune. They bought and built on 75 acres in the country but my dad enjoys watching the deer and doesn’t hunt there. I’ve changed him πŸ˜‰
      I don’t mind when hunters go out and eat what they kill. I do NOT agree with trophy hunting or irresponsible hunting. Get a license, tag your kill, track your animals, and use the right size weapon. Anything else is barbaric and terrible.

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  8. i do the mowing mostly and KC does the weed whacker thingy. i call it a whipper snipper lol. that thing scares me. most of the housework falls to me too, but i enjoy it/get super cranky when other people do ‘my jobs’ if that makes sense. KC does all the cat stuff though, like cleaning the litter. don’t know how i lucked out there! KC normally chooses what we watch as well, if i am doing the choosing, i am normally watching on my own. haha.

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    1. I laughed SO loudly when I read “whipper snipper.” Then I read it to my husband and told him that’s what we’re calling it from now on. Every time I read that I laugh! Thanks for that πŸ˜€ Haha!
      I don’t really like people doing “my” chores unless I can direct them, lol. Like… laundry and cleaning and the dishwasher all go a certain way. When I ask K to do something I give him very specific instructions. Ha.

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  9. Yep, I’m the exact same way with all of these (except having control of the TV because I always do, otherwise we would be watching golf nonstop, and drink beer – because hello, it’s beer haha). While I don’t hang anything, I am always the director of how it SHOULD be hung! Love this lighthearted post!

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    1. Hahaha. We end up with lots of car shows on. It encourages me to go read, though, which is why I’m totally good with it. I watch my own shows by myself and we watch things like Food Network, HGTV, and The Voice together πŸ™‚
      Thank you!

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