Sick

Every time I miss a few Tuesdays/Thursdays I feel like I have to explain why. I know that’s not the case. I know that either a) you don’t care lol or b) you completely understand my absence and are just happy to see me around on IG or in your comment section. Nevertheless, I brought my excuses with me today.

We’ve been on the road a lot for fun & work, but more than that, I’ve been sick.

Being sick when you’re an adult is complicated. When you’re a kid, your parents called the school, planted you on the couch with the remote, and made sure you had ginger ale/chicken noodle soup/tissues/etc. Yeah you probably had homework and classwork to make up, but the pressure was minimal.

Being a sick adult SUCKS. First of all, there’s no one to take care of you. (Yes, I have a husband and yes, he steers clear of me when I’m sick.) You feel like dog poop, but you have a JOB and a WORK LOAD and DEADLINES. There’s pressure to show up and perform and get your stuff done without excuses.

I powered through most of my cold because we were on a business trip and I pretty much had to. When we got home and it was the tail end, I finally decided, ‘screw it, I’m taking a half day’, and that’s what I did on Tuesday.

But still… it was only a half day. Should I have powered through and just lived with my cold and kept doing my work? Or should I have taken a day off SOONER and rested and nursed myself back to health? Quite honestly, I think society pressures us to go with option one.

(Yes, I tried to think about my coworkers’ health, too, but I’m married to one so that was kind of a null point.)

This ties into self care. We feel pressure to ignore the illness, keep our nose to the grindstone, and work through the pain (or snot or hacking). First of all, ew. But secondly, that’s not healthy! We struggle to admit we need a day to revive our health- sometimes physical and sometimes mental. I think it’s really hurting us.

And maybe I’m wrong. Maybe you feel a tickle in your nose and you elect to stay home (or even work from home), but that’s not me. And it’s not the person I’m married to. We show up regardless and not in a good way; we’re never our best in that state.

Just some food for thought today. I’m too busy to get sick, but that never stops the germs. And in the future, I need to take the time to slow down, rest up, and kick the cold to the curb with rest and medicine- not emails and meetings and ignorance.

What do you do? Are you good about recognizing what you need and taking that time for yourself?

28 thoughts on “Sick

  1. i’m sick right now and it does suck. i hate getting sick because it interrupts my workout routine but i’ve learned (after many hard lessons) that i need to take a break while i’m sick – a FULL break – instead of going back to the gym after i start feeling better (which only causes a relapse and prolonged sickness). it’s been a whole week that i haven’t been to the gym and i’m going crazy but i know it’s for the best.

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    • I always get sick this time of year (early April) and it always coincides with our NASCAR trip and a weeklong business trip. Last year I ended up missing the race weekend because I just couldn’t do both. This weekend I did do both, but I always wonder how much faster I’d recover if I’d just hole up at home and relax.

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  2. Aw, I hope you feel better soon!
    I left early on Tuesday with a migraine. I took my meds so I could try and stay, but after 45 minutes and them not working at all, I threw in the towel. And I felt SO GUILTY! I hate having to take sick time. I went home and slept and then felt better when I woke up. Sometimes that’s what our body needs.
    I do think our society tells us to work, work, work, even if we’re sick. Not a good mindset!

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    • Thank you! I’m starting to feel better- just a runny nose and tiredness now. I always feel guilty, too. Especially knowing that I’m leaving my work either undone or on the shoulders of my husband and our ONE other office coworker. It sucks to feel that way but we just can’t help it when we’re sick!

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  3. I’m literally reading this sitting at my desk with a kleenex stuck up my nose from where its running, breathing out of my mouth where I’m stopped up & my ears aching from the sinus infection that has brewed all over my face. & yet, here I am at work trying to keep my sniffling down…. I feel ya friend. I only took off last year for surgeries… & even came into work with a tube hanging out of my rear – NO JOKE.. & they had to send me home. I was raised that you GO TO WORK – no matter what. Probably not the best thing always.

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    • Ughhh. YES. And when it’s “only” a sinus infection (vs. the flu or something) I feel that added pressure to go to work because I know I’m not contagious and I’m just feeling crummy from the weather. My family is a work-through-it kind of family and I was raised to do that, too. K hardly ever takes a sick day.

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  4. Traveling when sick is the worst!
    As a teacher, I never took off school for a cold. We didn’t get enough sick days for that and I’ve powered through with fevers. If I was throwing up, I would call in but I’d still have to write sub plans and it was so much work.
    I haven’t been sick (yet) as a SAHM (does exhaustion count? lol), but I’m sure it’s its own level of terrible.

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    • It definitely takes ALL the fun out of traveling. For both work and pleasure.
      Yikes- I can’t imagine being sick and STILL having to keep humans alive and happy and healthy. I think that’d be the toughest thing ever. Crossing my fingers you stay healthy!

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  5. Ugh. Sorry to hear you’re not feeling well. Balancing illness and work is a real struggle. I also never felt good about staying home when there was work to be done, and there were times where I’ve been sent home because coughing every 30 seconds is annoying to fellow co-workers. My workplace provided ample sick days so if I had a fever, I did take off because I was likely contagious and get ferociously irritated when people contaminate others. I was also lucky that my work wasn’t dependent on me being in the office so if I could pick-up or have my laptop couriered to my home and work from my bed, which was nice. Now that I work for myself, I can more easily rest (typically – sometimes I still can’t if I’m in the midst of a big project) when I get sick and do get over a cold significantly faster than I did when I worked in Corporate America.

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    • I usually stay home when I know I’m contagious. But those icky colds or sinus infections always seem so bad… yet the pressure to still show up and work is there. Since K is technically my boss I’m sure I could get away with staying home more often, but I don’t like abusing that system and he’s had to come into my office before and order me to leave and go rest. Lol

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  6. Ugh sorry you have been sick. It is the worst as adults. I dont have a job but being sick with the kids is hard to pull off. You don’t want them to get sick but you have to like parent and stuff. I wish we could all take the time we need to feel better.

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    • I think being a stay at home mom and being sick would be terrible! How do you keep other humans alive and happy and healthy when you yourself feel like death?? I don’t know if I’d be able to handle it. I’d have to call in the grandparents. Hahahaha!

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  7. Ugh, it’s tough right? I used to be really bad at this and honestly having such bad anxiety the last several years has forced me to take care of myself. And when I don’t KC pushes back. Usually. I’m kinda stubborn, so it depends on the time. I’m always good at the work/home life balance. I never check my emails from home, I don’t work on my day off unless I have to and always take another day off instead, and I don’t feel bad about taking vacations. That’s all pretty important to me, but it can still be hard! I totally get that. Also yes, being sick is the worst. Feel better soon!! I feel like I get sick at the end of every vacation now. 😦 XO – Alexandra

    Simply Alexandra: My Favorite Things

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    • I feel like vacations end up making me more sick, too. Lol. I don’t think I felt AS BAD taking vacation or personal days when I worked at my old job, but it’s tough to ask for that stuff when I know K is still going to be at the office, running the company. I mean, we usually vacation together and I have to force him to go, but even sick days make me feel bad that’s he’s shouldering my workload. I’m hoping this is something we get better and better at.

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  8. It’s been an awful year so far with sickness- SO much going around. I’m so with you, I don’t stay home unless I am full on not functioning or able to move. It can be so bad, as you mentioned that we fail to take care of ourselves but I just wasn’t brought up and don’t have it in me to take time for myself and recoup unless I can’t get out of bed. I hope you feel better SO SO soon. Sending love!

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    • It’s nuts how we push ourselves to the point of no longer functioning, but I get it because I do it and my family has always done. We’re just ingrained with a crazy work ethic from the start. I’m very convinced that I’d healthcares faster and feel better if I’d just take a day for myself right at the beginning. But I never do. Lol

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  9. So sorry you haven’t been 100% It really sucks to be sick as an adult, for sure. Most of time we do not get to lounge on the couch and watch The Price Is Right, like we did when we were 10, huh?!

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    • Man- the recover would be so quick if we could do that!
      People always say that kids bounce back and get better quickly. MAYBE it’s because they get to sleep and relax and eat healthy during their recovery! Lol

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  10. I think it’s tough, especially in the U.S., for people to take the time they need when they are sick because they don’t have sick days, etc. It’s true that going to work sick means you might get others sick – and you’re not working from your best self. At the same time, I’m sure we all try and power through sometimes when we really need to rest and get BETTER. Sorry you were sick though. It’s not fun as an adult! I hope you are feeling better.

    -Lauren
    http://www.shootingstarsmag.net

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    • We get 5 sick days here but they’re unpaid. I’m salary so it doesn’t affect me as much, but I know it’s a hit to the warehouse guys to take a sick day. It just stinks that as adults our health and recovery time isn’t a priority and we feel the repercussions of that.

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  11. I’m sorry you’ve been sick and hope you are feeling better! Loved your Easter outfit I saw over on IG! Too cute. I tend to power through because my kids (and husband, let’s be honest haha) need me, and I try to only use sick days for when the KIDS are sick, not me. But sometimes you just have to stop and let yourself rest as much as you can!

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    • Thank you! It was my first ever jumpsuit experience. LOL
      So true… Even when I’m sick and I manage to stay home from work, I still have a million things to get done around the house. And when K was sick he’d sometimes beg me to stay home and take care of him. Hahaha. Not so much now that I work for him- he likes me to go to work and be the eyes and ears while he’s down.

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    • That’s the way to do it!! I swear I ALWAYS get sick before a business trip! Last year I lost my voice in Texas and this year I caught a sinus bug while in Dayton. Ughhh! Haha!

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