I won’t write a long intro. We’ll just jump back into the story ☺️

(You can find Part 1 here.)

We decided to go with the vacuum delivery to force M out of her cozy home.

At this point I was exhausted. I wanted to sleep for days. In between contractions/pushes I was given oxygen and K was wiping my forehead with a cold washcloth. Most of the nurses in the room were holding my legs/feet for me.

This last part of delivery lasted 30 minutes & I had my eyes closed the entire time. All my efforts were being put into staying awake and pushing. K witnessed two pop-offs and he could see the doctors getting concerned. He knew we only had one more attempt left.

I could hear a change in his voice. I knew some of my pushes were revealing M’s head for a brief moment. As he was encouraging me, I could hear his excitement when progress was being made.

No one told me it was down to the wire, but the nurses, doctors, and K insisted that we were almost there- one more good one. They put the vacuum to her and told me to push on the next contraction, but K and I both think I lied about the next contraction and I just started to push because I was so. over. it.

Again, my eyes were closed but this is K’s rendition:
As I was pushing the doctor was pulling on the vacuum with all her strength- her feet were pushing against my bed because she was pulling so hard. He watched as M’s head came out and the vacuum popped off…. but instead of letting her contract back into the birth canal two nurses grabbed onto her shoulders and pulled her free.

There was no “ok we have her head, just one more push for the shoulders”… it was no baby and then THE WHOLE BABY. She arrived at 8:36pm.

They put her naked, squaking little body on my stomach for a brief moment and patted her dry, but due to the trauma, method, and length of delivery she was taken by the NICU nurses and examined next to my bed. Just seeing her for a few seconds was so surreal.

I’m learning that parenthood is a continuous cycle of frustration/stress/confusion followed by extreme relief. Over and over. This was the first bout of relief. As soon as she was out K and I took the breath that we’d been holding for 12+ hours.

The nurses invited K over to the corner and he hung out with M while they repaired me. I received stitches & a 24+ hour catheter. The doc and nurses warned me that it was going to be a rough recovery (& they weren’t lying).

It took the doctors an hour to fix me up. During that time I sent out a text to our group message letting them know all was good, baby was here, and K would be out in the lobby to bring them in soon. And then FINALLY M was cleared by the nurses and we were reunited.

The NICU nurses told K that M was ok and healthy, but she was slightly stressed from the long & hard delivery. She recommended that only he and I hold her that night- if she was passed around it might stress her out and she’d have to go to the NICU. We weren’t upset one bit about getting to hog our daughter all night but we felt bad that our parents hung around for 8+ hours and wouldn’t get to hold their granddaughter that night.
(No worries- they all took their turns the following day.)

Some things I’d like to remember about labor & delivery:

I had a great epidural. I felt pressure during delivery but I didn’t feel any pain, even when they attempted the forceps and the vacuum. The contractions got a little ouchie toward the end but they were the green light to push so I didn’t mind. I didn’t noticed the placenta delivery at all.

I was in a great mood immediately after delivery. I was joking around with the doctors while they were stitching me up and making them & the NICU nurses laugh. Either my hormones were going haywire and making me giddy or I was just delirious. Dr. Heartless was a totally different person after M arrived. She was friendly and joking with both K and I. (We wondered where that person was four hours ago… *eyeroll*)

Our poor friends and family were terrified. My labor progressed so quickly and they knew we were ready to push at 3pm. We stopped visiting the lobby and texting shortly after that. They didn’t get the “all good!” text from me until 9:03pm. We didn’t mean to freak them out or go radio silent… we were just busy. They were very very panicked, though. Oops! (Sorry everyone!)

And that’s the basic story. (“Basic”…. lol. It took me two whole posts.) After delivery and at my 6 week postpartum appointment my doctor was a friendly, kind human. I know on delivery day she had 3 emergency c-sections so I will give her the benefit of the doubt as far as bedside manner goes… I guess.

First thoughts about M? She has my nose. I think it’s the first comment K made about her. Other than that, she’s resembled him since day one. Also, for having a vacuum delivery, her head wasn’t terribly misshapen or bruised. By the following morning her head was 100% normal. We also think she might be a strawberry blonde but time will tell. Her hair was blonde/reddish/auburn depending on the lighting and her eyes were super dark- we couldn’t tell what color they were. (They’re now a very dark blue.)

Delivery SUCKED. The first two weeks of her life were SO hard. Motherhood has been the biggest adjustment and hardest stage of my life so far. (Newborn stage wasn’t our favorite, lol.) BUT… I’d go through all of it again 100xs over just to have M. She is our favorite.

If you’ve stuck around through part 1 and 2… wow! I’m impressed. I promise I’m taking a little break from the baby content on the blog for a bit 😉 Thanks for putting up with me this long!

12 thoughts on “M’s Grand Arrival | part 2

  1. What a story. What a delivery. Good heavens it was a lot to go through for Mom and Dad (and family and friends) but little M was worth it. And you can hang that over head when she gets big too. 😀 Childbirth is truly miraculous and I feel like women don’t get enough credit for it! And I love your honesty about the blessing and stress of motherhood. Some gloss over the stress, frustration, etc and that does a disservice to women because as happy as the new baby may make you – you’re still dealing with a lot and it’s okay to feel tired and frustrated and even sad or unhappy. I hate it when people make normal feelings feel wrong. I’m thrilled baby M made her (dramatic) appearance and Mom and baby are doing well. She is gorgeous! But I’m guessing you knew that already.

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    1. Yeah… it was quite the day.
      K made the joke about me bringing her into this world so I can take her out. I said NO! I know what it took to get her into this world and I will never let ANYTHING take her out. Haha!
      We’re both doing really well, especially now, but hot damn those first few weeks were nothing but hell. And my body was in so much pain & recovery. Things are almost back to normal. RIP bladder control. Sigh. Haha.

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  2. LOL you were totally busy. I know it’s hard on the people waiting but you had other things to concentrate on and a good reminder for those of us who are the people waiting in other families!

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    1. At one point my mom snuck back to the delivery hall and listened outside the door. She said she couldn’t hear anything so it didn’t make her feel any better. Lol. I *think* K might’ve sent a “We’re ok” text to his dad because they were FREAKED out. But that’s all he said.

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  3. I’m always so fascinated by birth stories – living vicariously through all you amazing ladies…!!! Glad the delivery all in all went well!! And how did the recovery go?

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    1. It’s nuts to have one of my own!
      Recovery was toughhhh. I was in so much pain and my body was so uncooperative. It’s hard taking care of a newborn when you’re in need of care, too. Fortunately things are much better now. My bladder control is still recovering but beyond that I’m feeling better. I never thought I’d recover.

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  4. I remember Jordan saying how freaked out he was by how hard the dr was pulling on the vacuum that’s ATTACHED TO A BABY’S HEAD. I had my eyes closed too, so I didn’t see that part. Glad it went ok in the end!

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  5. WOW… what an entry into the world. Did they ever figure out if it was something – like your tract being small – or her shoulders being big or was it just at the wrong angle? Just good to know for future babies if there are any.
    I’m glad you got that alone time with her after – you deserved it after that hard work you put into it all.
    In the end, so glad you all are happy & healthy & you have that Princess of yours to enjoy every day with ❤

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    1. The big issue was her head being turned. They can’t say why that happened… but my theory is that it happened while we were waiting to push. I think if I’d have pushed when I hit 10cm it would’ve gone smoother…
      But yay for it all being over now! Haha!

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