Three Months of Madelyn

Tomorrow M will be THREE MONTHS OLD. That’s a quarter of a year! 90 days! Excuse me while I both go cry in a dark closet & also pop open a bottle of champagne.

Yes, I did turn my kid into a Pokemon card.

Nicknames: Maddie, Maddie Lou, Mads, Maa-da-lou, Moo Loo, Moo Shoo, Moo, Poodle

Stats: Based on rough at home measurements… 13.5 lbs & 25 in. She’s quite long. Doesn’t get it from me.

Likes: When Mom sings with her (If You’re Happy & You Know It) and when Dad makes faces with her (she’s started copying what he does!). She loves her activity mat, she loves watching the dogs, and she loves laying flat on her back & talking.

Dislikes: Being cold after a bath. Being overly tired. Being in the car- esp. when it’s not moving.

Sleeping: M has one wake up per night, typically between 2 & 4am. She gets her final bottle around 7pm and goes down. She’s up for the day between 6 & 7am. Naps are good when you’re holding her. We’re working on napping in the crib.

Eating: She’s a big fan of formula- mainly because it’s her only option, lol. She recently started refusing the bottles she’s taken since she was a week old 😑 We changed bottles and solved that problem. She’s starting to watch K and I eat so I’ll be excited to introduce her to real food once we get the green light!!

Developments: She smiles, coos, and is starting to copy us. She has found her hands and likes to suck on them, but she hasn’t quite grasped grasping. She also hasn’t rolled over. The little turd is very content on her back and sucks her hand when she’s on her tummy… and therefore doesn’t give one lick about rolling.

Personality: Our little sundrop is a HUGE fan of mornings. When she summons me to the crib at the ungodly hour of 6am (I know, I know- that’s a normal time to wake up) she is alllll smiles. M loves people watching, but she’s a little homebody. She’s happiest in a familiar setting with familiar people. After a big day we can usually predict an evening breakdown because she’s OVER IT. She most certainly gets that from her mother…

Travel: So far M has been to San Antonio, TX. She did amazing on the planes!

Mom’s Summary: Month 1 was so hard. We didn’t enjoy the newborn stage at all. After that things got better. By the time M hit Month 2 we had it mostly figured out. Once I was out of my fog and M was a little less potato-y, we really started getting to know one another. I will completely admit that we didn’t bond at first. It wasn’t until I quit breastfeeding, I got my hormones under control, and M started showing a few patterns that we started to click.
In the beginning when I was really struggling Erin told me that babies are complete strangers! It will take days, maybe weeks, to get to know her and understand who she is. Society tells us we’re supposed to have an immediate bond but sometimes it takes a little time. Hearing that helped me so much and now that I know Maddie, I completely and totally agree. She is her own person with her own likes and dislikes and quirks. Every single day I love her more.

Instead of monthly blog updates I decided to do quarterly updates. So the next one will happen at six months 🙂 I can’t wrap my head around the changes she’ll make between now & then!

8 Comments Add yours

  1. Rebecca Jo says:

    I love all the nicknames. Poodle? LOL – I love it.
    M is a girl after my own heart being up early & grumpy by night fall.
    6 months, she’ll practically be walking & asking for keys to the car, right? 🙂


    1. Audrey says:

      Lol- she needed some kind of doggie nickname, right?
      Ughhhh. I am a night owl and I HATE mornings. She got her traits from her dad. Ha.
      YIKES- you’re probably not too far off!!


  2. Lauren Becker says:

    Aw, what a cutie, and I love that you made her into a Pokemon card. And I think it’s great that someone let you know that it’s okay that you don’t bond right away – it takes time to get to know someone, even a baby. Moms definitely put a lot of pressure on themselves to have this super maternal bond and instinct, and they assume it’s natural and happens right away. I’m so glad that things are getting better and she’s developing her little personality!!!



    1. Audrey says:

      Haha- I thought it was a fun idea 🙂
      Yeah… I know some moms absolutely feel the immediate bond but I didn’t and I think it’s really common to NOT feel it. But no one talks about that. We are best buddies now, though! ❤


  3. Oh I love this. You’ll love looking back at this and seeing how Maddie has changed. And I cannot decide which is my favorite nickname because they are all awesome but Maa-da-lou made me smile as soon as I saw it. I love what Erin told you and I’m so glad you shared it with everyone too. While I am not a Mom, i’ve definitely heard that “advice” and it’s not a universal truth. Some times it takes a moment or two or weeks for that bond to really take hold and there is nothing wrong with that. She’s adorable but I’m pretty sure you already knew that. 😀


    1. Audrey says:

      Thank you! I love all her little nicknames. They come so naturally. Haha. We have to be careful not to call her some of the dog nicknames. (We call Enzo “monkey” and I often catch myself trying to call M that, lol.) She is great 🙂 We definitely didn’t bond right away. I loved her right away, but there wasn’t a strong bond for a few weeks. And the guilt I felt about that didn’t help at. all. Erin’s advice was lovely!


  4. That’s such a good point about newborns being strangers. They don’t even know who they are yet so of course their parents are going to need time to get to know them! I’m wondering if anyone really has that instant bond because all I ever hear is people feeling guilty that they didn’t!


    1. Audrey says:

      Ugh. You’d think society would drop the lie. Lol.
      I think some moms do… but my brain was clouded and busy and so tired when M was born. It took a while to sort it all out.


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