A Happy Holiday

No one loves seeing a weekend end, but this past weekend was lovely. Our summer holidays are typically filled with barbecues and parties (& I love going to them!) but this weekend was very isolated and relaxing… which is just what we needed.

K took Thursday off and we went to the zoo. It was hot but there weren’t many people and the park had done a lot to enforce social distancing & safety.  ♥


Over the weekend we went on a morning bike ride, took M to the local park to watch the ducks & grab lunch, and took the corvette to a city “cruise the boulevard” event for a date night. (Since car shows and festivals aren’t a thing right now, local car enthusiasts have been organizing cruises for nice/vintage cars.) We also took M to get ice cream, watched a bunch of NASCAR, & restocked the dead flowers on the front porch (oops). M turned seven months on Saturday.

It was the quietest holiday weekend I have ever had in my entire life.

I can’t wait to freely spend time with family again safely, but I’m grateful that we got to hog all the snuggles and giggles this weekend with our girl. It was such a memorable weekend for the three of us. K and I dreaded heading back to work today.

What did you do?

This Is A Rant About My Rights

I don’t post on Fridays but I’m pissed off.

I want to write about silly things and life updates and other fun things but I cannot get our country’s bullshit out of my head.

I have to write it out.

I posted this on my facebook this week:

“So like… are we going to believe victims of sexual assault now that they are being forced to carry the proof in their own wombs and birth their abuser’s offspring or… are we still going to argue that they were asking for it?

I seriously can’t with this f*cked up country right now. Do not gloss over these new laws. They are a direct assault on you and the women you love.”

You know what? Republicans, democrats, libertarians, and borderline socialist all liked it. You know why? Because these new effed up laws aren’t to protect childen- they’re to control women.

Laws that would benefit kids: School lunch health laws. Gun laws. Keeping kids out of freaking cages laws. Adequate funding for schools and teachers laws. Environmental laws. Stronger rape and abuse laws. Stronger animal abuse laws (because animal abusers WILL move on to humans). Health care laws. Affordable college laws. Welfare program laws. Homelessness laws. Hunger laws. Living condition and real estate laws. Medical laws that IMPROVE the care, services, and conditions of lower income facilities.

You want to work on and pass laws to help kids? Work on those ^^^

Laws that do not benefit kids: Forcing women to abstain from sex OR risk pregnancy. Forcing women to birth a human that they did not consent to making. Forcing doctors to withhold life saving and safe medical procedures from consenting women. Removing birth control as an option for employed women. Closing and decreasing funding to FREE & low cost clinics that assist with conception, pregnancy, birth, and other services.

Maybe you’re pro-life. I’m not going to argue with you on your beliefs. I will argue that these laws are NOT pro-life. They are anti-women. They are dangerous. They are being passed by men who do not understand how menstruation works, let along pregnancy. These states have stricter laws on the female body than they do on GUNS. Based solely on the service level digging I did, the numbers of abortions in the US have dropped over the years and gun violence has skyrocketed.

I’m not going after gun rights at this moment- promise– but as far as policies that need laws revamped go… My lovely female body ain’t it. You want to help me out? BELIEVE ME when I say someone assaulted/raped/underpaid/stalked/harassed/threatened me.

I have many things to say about this, but I need to stop and calm down because you get the idea. Guys… uneducated, stupid-as-stones men are making these laws. (I’ll admit there are some dumbshit women involved as well.) Men that don’t understand how tampons work or how ectopic pregnancy works or when an egg is even implanted in a woman’s uterus. For f*ck sake. This is NOT ok.

And as a side note, rapists can SUE their victims for custody rights in 31 states. What. the. hell.

So I agree that there are rape & healthcare laws that need revised. Forcing women to push out unwanted & unintended humans is NOT the humane or correct solution.

I’m turning my comments off because I don’t want to debate pro-life/pro-choice and I’m not changing my mind on this topic so I don’t need anyone to “at me”, as the kids say.  Feel free to share this, feel free to blacklist my blog, feel free to email me I guess. We still have all those rights as of now.

I’m not looking for validation in regards to this post- I’m just begging you to keep your eyes open, VOTE for decent and education humans, and get out there and fight the fight when you can. There is no Starbucks war on Christmas but there is a brewing, dangerous war on women.

-A

Storming Gettysburg | What’s New With You?

In linking up with Kristen today for What’s New With You, I figured I’d share about our Gettysburg anniversary trip.

If you haven’t picked up on it yet, I really enjoy celebrating things. I constantly have friends and family over for parties or plan a special trip out for birthdays & holidays. When it comes to our anniversary, we always try to do something special. The last time we travel-celebrated was in 2015 when we went to Niagara Falls for our 2nd anniversary. Originally I wanted to do something BIG this year for #5 like a cruise or an all-inclusive resort, but after being sick at the start of April and traveling +3 weeks already for work this year, I was a little burnt out and in need of a nearby quick trip. We’d never been to Gettysburg and we’re big history lovers, so it was the perfect choice!

I married a work-aholic and I know that. His job stresses him out but he loves it, so I try to be respectful of that when I plan trips. As such, our Wednesday morning started at work. We finally left town a little after 10am.

Gettysburg

We checked into the Gettysburg Hotel a little after 4 pm, dropped our bags in the room, and set out on foot for some dinner. It was sprinkling slightly but we didn’t have to venture far. We crossed the street and found The Pub & Restaurant. It was welcoming and quaint and very unoccupied.

After nomming on some Maryland Crab Bisque, Spicy Chicken (for me), and Meatloaf (for K) we took a short walk around the square. The rain was only spitting here and there, and the sun was shining so we hardly noticed.

We got some milkshakes from the Cannonball Olde Tyme Malt Shop and then we compromised. K wanted to watch the Cavs game so we pushed our movie date to the next night.

We scheduled a guided tour at 9 am on Thursday morning so we were up for breakfast bright and early! We had Bananas Foster French Toast (K) and Texas Toast Egg Sandwich (me) at our hotel’s restaurant, One Lincoln. It was so yummy and our server was super friendly.

Then we were off to the Gettysburg National Military Park Museum & Visitor Center.

I scheduled a two hour driving tour with one of the Gettysburg Licensed Battlefields Guides. They give you the option to hand over the keys and be chauffeured around the park while they explain the battles, landmarks, important people, and scenery. It was an awesome tour.

cannons / view from peach orchard (day 2 battle) / little round top (day 3 battle)

Our guide, George Maturi, gave use the basic rundown of each day. Gettysburg was a three day battle and for the first 2/3 it really looked like the south was going to win. Thanks to hubris, luck, and a little talent, the north pulled out a win and the south didn’t win the war. (If they’d won Gettysburg the south was convinced that they would’ve won the Civil War.) Of course, victory didn’t happen without sacrifice- thousands upon thousands of lives were lost each day of fighting.

view from little round top (day 3 battle)

After our tour we decided to peruse the museum, get some Starbucks, and drive ourselves around the park, stopping at whatever caught our interest during the tour. We had a gorgeous day to cruise around. A little windy, but sunny and clear.

Eternal Light Peace Memorial

We had a late lunch at food 101 and I ordered a Salmon Avocado Sandwich that has forever set the bar for sandwiches. Seriously. It was IN.CRE.DI.BLE. I don’t even know what K was eating because I had such a moment with my food…

After lunch we popped into the hotel so K could nap while I journaled. We went to see Isle of Dogs at the theater just around the corner (Majestic Theater) at 4:15 pm, then ordered dinner in and relaxed all evening. I love that we went to see that movie because Wes Anderson is one of my favorites and it just felt so perfect that his new movie was in theaters over our anniversary date.

We said goodbye to our hotel on Friday morning, picked up some coffee for moi, and headed back home so K could check in on the office before the weekend truly started.


If you decide to explore Gettysburg I would say it’s a 2 or 2 1/2 day adventure. We skipped Jennie Wade’s house, the David Wills House, and the Eisenhower Farm, but they each would’ve taken two hours or less. I would HIGHLY suggest the guided in-car tour. You can opt for longer than 2 hours AND you can ask them to focus on specific things if you want to (i.e. certain days or battles, specific regiments, etc.). I’m very glad we had a guide!

So tell me, have you ever been to Gettysburg? (I can’t believe both K and my 8th grade D.C. trips skipped this National Park!) Have you seen Isle of Dogs? How do you typical celebrate anniversaries?

No thank you.

I had a post planned for today, but I don’t feel like writing it. I don’t feel like doing much, actually.

Just so my Muslim, gay, lesbian, Jewish, black, Asian, female, male, and any other race/religion/gender friends know: Tr*mp’s America isn’t my America, and you will always be loved and respected and welcome in my life and in my house.

I don’t know how to comprehend this.

No comments today.

-A

Canada, Oh Canada | Part 1

Guess who gets to cross a destination off of her Passport Picks list….. Me! Last weekend K and I took a short anniversary get-away trip to Niagara Falls, Ontario, Canada! Our little Midwestern town is exactly 5 hours from the tourist trap and neither of us had ever been, so I booked us a trip! (I love the deals I find on Travelocity!)

Niagara

We left home Saturday morning and made it across the boarder and into Niagara Falls by noon. I made reservations for a 1pm brewery tour and we were a little early, so we decided to walk around the corner and check out a small Parisian cafe (unintentionally discovered on our map app). Um, SUCH a cool little find! We were a little bummed that we already had lunch plans because these crepes belonged in the Louvre; they were so masterful and decadent. We settled on some coffee and people watching.

Cafe

We paid our bill (after some currency anxiety- more on that later) and headed back across the street for our tour & some lunch. I will pause right now to say this: We did not have one bad meal in Canada. Everything was so delicious, everywhere we went! Bravo, Canada!

Taps

At 3pm we could check into our hotel so we headed down the street to the Oakes Hotel Overlooking the Falls. They weren’t kidding- it looked like we could dive into the falls! So awesome!

I’ve learned over the years that K has differing vacation expectations than me. He likes to take time to lounge in the hotel room or nap or watch a TV show. I like to go go go because there’s so much to see and do! That being said, we relaxed in the room for a bit before I dragged him out again.

Oakes

That afternoon we headed down the Falls Incline Railway (a vertical cable car) and browsed the gift shop, watched Niagara’s Fury, and walked along the falls, snapping a million pictures.

(Niagara’s Fury is a short movie and moving platform with sounds, water, lights, etc. that explains how the falls were carved out by glaciers.)

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Horseshoe Falls
Horseshoe Falls

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American Falls & Bridal Veil Falls
American Falls & Bridal Veil Falls

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To appease my hubby we headed back to the room to relax before dinner. I actually fell asleep and he browsed the internet for facts about Niagara Falls. We topped off the night with some dinner at My Cousin Vinny’s and the illuminated falls.

Vinnys

Some interesting facts from K about the falls:
– Collectively, the falls dump 750,000 gallons of water per second
– There are actually three waterfalls- the Bridal Veil Falls is a smaller waterfall next to the American Falls
– The American Falls were stopped in 1969 for several months
– The only person to survive an unintentional trip down the falls was a 7 year old boy (his boat had overturned)
– 2% of the world’s fresh water can be found in the Great Lakes and MOST of it goes over the falls

Check out Part 2!

Have you ever been to Niagara Falls? (Which side?) Where would you travel to on a long weekend? Don’t you love when you accidentally discover the perfect little cafe or restaurant??

-Louise