Date Ideas for Couples Who Don’t “Date”

I’m going to make a confession that will shock and horrifying marriage bloggers.

We don’t go on scheduled weekly or bi-weekly or monthly date nights.

Don’t get me wrong- we go on dates. They’re just not regular or scheduled. Our relationship doesn’t work that like. We’re both workaholics (who work with each other) and it’s healthier for us to veg at home (sometimes together and sometimes apart) instead of heading out on the town. I’m an introvert and K is an introverted extrovert so we alter our life and relationship to make ourselves happiest.

Ok, enough explaining. When we DO go out on dates, they tend to be a little bigger and/or planned out than what a weekly date night might entail. If your “dating style” is similar to ours, here are a few of our favorite things to do together:

An evening concert.
We love going to concerts together. We’ve been doing it since the very first month we started dating. When we were younger we’d show up to the concert venue, rock out, and then pig out on fast food or gas station food on our drive home. Now we like to go out to dinner first, then attend the concert (and then come home and crash like old people, lol).

A trip to the local creamery.
We live about 0.25 miles from the town’s BEST creamery. In addition to yummy ice cream, we both love their homemade coney sauce. On beautiful evenings when we don’t feel like cooking we climb into the convertible and cruise over there for dinner together.

Early morning breakfast dates.
I think one of my hands down favorite things to do with K is to wake up semi-early on a Saturday or Sunday and get breakfast at a local diner while the world is still waking up. There are lots of places near us but our favorite is a cute one a few towns over. With maybe 12 tables inside, everyone knows everyone. We’re strangers in that town, but they’re so friendly and it’s fun to watch them greet one another and catch up as they come inside for breakfast.

Walking around car shows.
I married a car enthusiast. We’ve spent many afternoons slowly walking through car shows, admiring the vintage rides of yesteryear. Truth be told, I’ve actually learned a lot about cars from K while walking around these shows. My dad, brother, and grandfathers are all car lovers, too. I guess it’s in my blood 😉 Perusing car lots and open houses are also a fun way to spend the afternoon. For us anyway.

A festival lunch date.
We don’t really care for crowds. Additionally, in a small town like ours, when you immerse yourself in a crowd you’re bound to know a handful of people- some you like and some you don’t. We’ve found that by going on weekday lunch dates to street fests and fairs, we avoid crowds and lines and small talk with people we haven’t seen since high school. AND we get the benefit of fresh lemonade and vinegar-soaked fries 😀

I think it’s adorable and cute and #relationshipgoals when couples plan out weekly quality time. I really do. It’s just not how we operate 🙂 All kinds of kinds. These occasional outings work well for us and keep us happy and connected. Next time you’re looking for something to do with you s/o, try one of these!

What kind of date activities do you and yours like to do?

My Summer Bucket List

Between Jessica’s summer list and Chelsea’s monthly to-do lists, I decided I need a summer bucket list to get me in the right mood. (If you’re new here, I hate summer. But I’m going to give it a shot this year.)

I did a seasonal bucket list for fall and I felt very accomplished and fulfilled by the end. Fingers crossed summer ends the same way!

  • Go on a mini-golf date with K
  • Finish Year 3 scrapbook
  • Beach house vacation with the whole family
  • DCI Championships with K in August
  • Finish backyard landscaping
    • & host a cookout for the company
  • Take Enzo to the dog park
  • Outdoor concert with K & friends
  • Garage Sale (#2)
  • Visit the farmers’ market
  • Make a serious dent in Erin’s reading challenge
  • Drink more water
  • Make homemade ice cream
  • Take the pups on an adventure

So to clarify… the beach vaca. and DCI trip are already planned, but I don’t care. Also, I’m doing a garage sale tomorrow, but my mom is doing one in July with my grandma so that’s why it’s #2- whatever I don’t sell tomorrow I’ll try again with in July.

I feel like my summer bucket list is kind of lackluster. Maybe it’s because summer just isn’t my thing… If you have any suggestions or additions to spice it up, I’m all ears!

The Engagement Story

Kyle and I started dating on October 21st, 2007- 4 days after my 17th birthday. Exactly four years later the cheeseball proposed. It’s not a crazy story, but it’s a cute one.


I was a junior in college and Kyle was driving up to pick me up from my apartment for a date/birthday/anniversary night. I lived with 3 girls: Sarah, Megan, & Kelly. Sarah and I were closest and I was raiding her closet that afternoon. (Pause. It’s weird to use the word closest and closet in the same sentence.)

For some reason all my roommates were convinced that K was going to proposed. I had serious doubts but the pressure to wear the right outfit was suddenly very, very great. K and I had discussed marriage, but he knew I didn’t want to wear the ball & chain until I was done with undergrad. For that reason I (kind of) wrote off the idea of a proposal. Nevertheless, I settled on the Sarah’s pretty blue dress and packed an overnight bag (at K’s request).

He picked me up and said he had everything planned out. First stop was dinner.

Kyle wasn’t nervous and he wasn’t being weird so I tried to be cool. We had a delicious dinner and I had my first legal drink in a restaurant. It was a birthday martini and it was gross. K was really nice about it and told me I didn’t need to finish it if I didn’t like it. This was weird because he was being super nice to me. It also confirmed that he wouldn’t be proposing with a hidden ring at the bottom of the martini. Pressure was off and I put the idea to rest.

After dinner we ended up at Starbucks and K said he wasn’t sure where to go next. This frustrated me a little because he was supposed to plan the whole date. We finished our coffee and he said we needed to go or he’d have to use the restroom again. (Pause, again. Why this ultimatum made any sense is beyond me. Why would it be bad for him to use the restroom again? Why did we have to leave? Why were we leaving to just drive around if he potentially had to go to the bathroom? I have no idea, but it made perfect sense in the moment.)

We left Starbucks and pulled into an empty parking lot of what used to be Coldstone Creamery. The building was being transformed into a Menchies and it was under construction. I thought we had parked to decided on a game plan or look at movies that were playing. Kyle said he figured it was as good a time as any to give me my anniversary gift.

We were sitting in his truck and I thought he was reaching into the backseat for something but he pulled a little black box out of his left pocket and opened it.

The ring was g.o.r.g.e.o.u.s. Kyle said some very nice things. He said he brought me to where we’d had our first date (Coldstone) and ….

At that point I was so excited and overcome with emotions I tuned him out and still have NO IDEA WHAT HE SAID. I even asked him to repeat it later that night and he refused.

Anyway, I totally said yes and we called our parents and best friends and told them all the news. It was so much fun to tell everyone. My parents, his parents, our best friend Roman, and K’s sister Lori all knew he was planning to ask me.

– Kyle’s parents were at a bar with friends and when he told them I said “yes” they announced it to the entire bar.

– My parents were actually confused on the date and the weekend prior, when they didn’t get an excited call from me, they called Kyle and gently asked him if he was ok (thinking he’d been turned down). Obviously he hadn’t asked yet.

– My brother flipped out.

– I told my grandma that K asked me to marry him, but I forgot to say that I’d said yes. She had to double check before we hung up the phone.

So K had me pack a bag because he booked us a room at a fancy-schmancy hotel that evening. All in all, it was a fantastic evening. All my roommates were so proud of themselves for being correct. K and I set our wedding date that night, too.

I had no idea this engagement was coming. Yes, we’d talked about marriage and yes, I had no doubt I’d be with Kyle forever and yes, we’d been together for 4 years, but my hubby picked out the ring all by himself and never gave any indication that he’d been looking for one.

I think it’s also important to note that I gave him a pretty awesome travel mug with Beaker (the muppet) on it, as well as a mixed CD. Fiancee of the year, folks.

Did you know when the “big questions” was coming? Did you pick out the ring before hand? Maybe you asked him! Tell me about your engagement!