To My Friends & Family

I am head-over-heels in love with this season. I enjoy dreary weather, I like the cold, and I live for the last three months of every year. I know there are plenty of people like me out there, but I also know there are not.

In addition to the daily chaos and hardships of life, the holidays add stress for people. Moms and dads feel pressure to make their homes magical for their kids. Bloggers see pictures of other bloggers’ decorated trees and hearths and homes. Instagram is filled with tightly wrapped presents and perfectly decorate cookies. I saw Bad Moms Christmas in theaters a few weeks ago and the premise- people (moms) are under a ton of stress to make the holidays perfect- is so true. Hell, people are under stress 365 days a year to make their lives (seem) perfect!

Right now I feel like a lot of my friends- real life and in the blog world- are fighting their way through tough ass seasons. Unfortunate health diagnoses or slow healing-injuries, parents pulling their hair out over rebellious toddlers or cranky babies, sick pets and struggling friendships or relationships and turmoil within the family… Everyone is going through something and it hurts my heart to see my loved ones plagued with these struggles.

I struggle with that fact that some people just aren’t happy. We only get one life to live and the idea of mucking our way through in a state of constant unhappiness makes me so upset. No one can be sunshine and rainbows all the time, but in general I want people to be joyful. I’m one of those people who feels like the weight of everyone’s happiness falls on my shoulders and, while I know that’s untrue and unhealthy, it affects me deeply when my friends are down and out.

I can’t control you or your life or the things that happen to you, but I do know that what you’re going through is a season and seasons pass. The Christmas season is a wonderful one for me, but it won’t stick around forever. The next season will be better or worse and have it’s own arsenal of curveballs, but it will arrive and I will deal with it and, eventually, it will pass. And with every season we learn something new.

So, my friends, don’t fret. This season will pass. Whether you wait it out or turn the page yourself, you will come out on the other side and things will be different. Perfect? No. But it’ll be different and you can look back (or not look back), and be grateful for where you are now. Love yourself and give yourself grace along the way. Practice kindness and accept help from others. I guarantee you are loved by someone (possibly me!) and that person is rooting for you- whether you know it or not.

If you’re reading this and you’re a close friend and you feel like you’re struggling, I hope you’ll reach out. I know the holidays can get dark and overwhelming but I promise I’m always free for a phone call or text exchange or mailed Christmas greeting. There’s always room around our holiday table and I definitely don’t mind a dinner date with a friend ❤︎

Try not to spend the holidays (or your life) faking a smile- find a way to crack a genuine one. You don’t have to have a perfect tree or a perfect home or a perfect Instagram. You’re loved just the way you are and you’re doing a great job. Life is difficult and you’re doing it- be proud of yourself.

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Sisterhood of the World: my first award!

Have I mentioned how much I love the blogging community? I’m still fairly new and inexperienced, but everyone is just so gosh darn nice! Yesterday I was nominated for the Sisterhood of the World: blogger award by Chelsea at the new wifestyle!

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If you’ve ever visited my Xanga page (and you haven’t, thank GOODNESS), you know that I was once obsessed with surveys. Chelsea has given me a few questions to answer and it’s taking me right back to my survey-loving, emo-looking, side-swoped bangs middle school days. I’m so pumped!

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what “made up” world from a book would you like to live in and obviously why?

Well, England and the rest of the UK actually exist, but I feel like Hogwarts counts as a superb answer. And if it doesn’t, I’d live in Wonderland with the Cheshire Cat and Mock Turtle.

would you rather have to sweat mustard or sneeze bees?

I won’t lie. I read this wrong. I thought it said sweet mustard… so then I started looking up what the heck “sneeze bees” were… HAHAHA! Ok, back to the question. Both of these things sound awful, but assuming the bees don’t sting on their way out, I would rather sneeze bees because A) the bee population is dying and I could help with that and B) I don’t like mustard and I don’t want to smell like it amd C) a sneeze goes so quick but you might be sweating for a long time!

what is one of your absolute favorite meals? (please include your dessert selection)

Restaurant-wise, I love me some good crab legs. (I’m also very conflicted about this because I know the cooking process is so gruesome and it makes me sad.) A Caesar salad followed by crab legs and a baked potato, finished off with some caramel cheesecake. I literally just described my order at Red Lobster. As far as meals at home go, my family loves to eat Raclette. It’s a Swiss dish where you use a little heater to melt cheese over potatoes. Technically you’re supposed to use Raclette cheese, but I don’t like that so we use all different kinds. Pair that with sausage and I’m in heaven. Ahhhh, now I’m so dang hungry!

Melt the cheese in the trays and cook little sausages on top! K and I just got one of these for Xmas!
Melt the cheese in the trays and cook little sausages on top! K and I just got one of these for Xmas!

if you knew you couldn’t fail, what would you do?

Open an animal shelter that didn’t have to turn away any homeless pets. Or I’d run an animal rehabilitation center for injured wildlife to get them back on their feet and into the wild again. Or an elephant sanctuary for retired elephants to live out their days in the most natural way possible. So, like, something to do with animal welfare and/or conservation 😉

what 80s or 90s sitcom would you want to live in?

Home Improvements. I wish I was kidding, but I’m not. I would star as Zachery Ty Bryan’s or Jonathan Taylor Thomas’ girlfriend. Sooooo stinkin’ cute!

what is something you would tell your high school self?

Be more confident! That guy you’re dating is going to marry you so stop with the jealousy/worry! Also, you are the perfect size, so quit thinking about your weight! And try to pick a direction before you go to college. Or don’t. College is a good time so stop worrying!

what is one of your most prized possessions? (pictures make things better)

Hands down, Bunny is my most prized possession. I mean, living-wise it’s K and the pups, but as far as inanimate objects, my stuffed rabbit. I have so many cool things from my adventures, but I have had Bunny my entire life.

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His fur is a little matted and his nose is gone, but 24 years old is pretty old for a rabbit…

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That was fun! Thanks, again, Chelsea! If you’d like to see her answers to some different questions check that out here!

My blogger nominations (if they choose to accept) are:

Christina @ The Daily Sugar
Rebecca @ Rebecca Chapman
Meghan @ Meghan Anna
Danielle @ The Lifestyle Project

And here are you questions!

What song makes you have to stop what you’re doing and dance every single time?

If you could transform into any animal for any amount of time, what animal would you be and for how long?

What’s your favorite holiday? Why?

Do you enjoy jokes? What’s the best joke you’ve ever told/heard?

You’re out to dinner and you run into a celebrity (alive or deceased). They say they’re up for anything and they’ll pay all evening! Who’s the celebrity and what are you guys going to do?!

What’s the last book/magazine/DVD cover that you read & really enjoyed?

Which creature do you wish existed today: dinosaurs or unicorns or horse-size kittens?

What’s your LEAST favorite color? Is there a reason?

These are the rules that have been passed down to me:
– Answer the questions from the person that nominated you.
– Nominate some of your blogging sisterhood- there is no set number for this!
-Ask your nominees some very important questions- again, no set number!

Have fun!

-Louise

 

 

Promises to My “Adult” Best Friends

First and foremost, best friends are awesome. Some lucky folks have had their best friends for decades and some people find their (friendship) soul mates later in life. It doesn’t matter where you found them, it just matters that you get each other and you’d do anything for one another.

All the lists I read regarding best friends and being loyal include things like:

– I will tell you when he is bad idea
– I will hold your hair back in the basement of any fraternity
– I will help you study until 3am in the lonely library

These are awesome friendship qualities when you’re getting through college or thoroughly “enjoying” your twenties, but what about your adult BFF?

Here’s my adult edition…

1. I promise to always answer your text/call/email/Facebook comment…eventually
I might not get to it until I clock out. I might have passed out at 8:30pm and I’ll reply at 6am as I start the shower. It may take 2 days, but I will respond.

2. I promise to make time for Girls’ Night
We might have to reschedule if your kid gets sick or your husband has the night off, but we will meet and enjoy wine and binge on nachos and complain about husbands/boyfriends/people.

3. I will never judge your martial/relationship problems
Speaking of men… I will never ever judge your weird sex stories or commitment doubts. I WILL offer advice and let you know if I think you’re making a bad decision or I think you are in harm’s way… but I will only tell you these things because I love you and I want you to be happy in the end.

4. I will hate your ex with you
This is totally petty, but I will hate on your ex with you. I will ignore him in public and shoot him the same dirty looks I perfected in the halls of high school. Additionally, I will hate on your significant other’s ex with you because sometimes you just need to hate on someone.

5. I will always pass on “good things” to you
If I read a good book or make a good dinner or stumble upon a good blog I promise to pass it on to you.

6. I will go with you
This is an important one- Of course I will go shopping with you or to the movies, but I will also come with you to an exercise class or awkward family function or scary doctor appointment. All you have to do is ask and we can down a bottle of wine and face it together.

7. I will harass you
Thinking about getting a dog from a breeder? I will harass you so much about not adopting. Did you cry for no reason on New Years Eve when the ball dropped? Yep, you’re never living that down. I am harassing you because I love you (and I expect to get it back) and I know you can take it because you’re a tough cookie.

8. I will visit you and/or keep in touch- no matter where we end up
Technology makes it kind of easy, but I will also strive for face-to-face visits, too.

9. I will love your children
When we get to the point of having babies just know that I will always love your offspring. I will babysit for free, shower them with birthday gifts, and take them to the zoo. I love you and they are a part of you. I will never put your kid down or judge your baby names or scold you for formula feeding. I will offer advice but I will always respect your decisions.

10. When things get bad you can lean on me
As we age, so do those around us. When your spouse gets sick or your family members pass away I will be there for you to talk with or cry to. If divorce happens I will stand by your side and coach you through. If your child gets hurt I will do everything I can to help you. Good, bad, easy, hard- I’ll be there.

I have several friends in mind as I type and read over my list. How blessed I am to have friends that would return each and every promise ❤

 -Louise